Concept of Marriage in Islam
HAROON RASHID WANI
Humans just like any other creation pos- sessing both a body and a soul (ruh) are in need of several things – each of which is essential for the safeguard of one’s survival and well-being. For instance the desire for nourishment compels us to eat so as to build up energy to live another day; the feelings of thirst make one drink water, which is also essential for one’s life. These and many other things facilitate man to live a prosperous and healthy life.Talking about the sexual desires and the need to fulfill one’s sexual requirements and passions play a key role in the protection of mankind, and
continuation of the human race.
Since man has been chosen as “the best of creations”, Allah (SWT) has laid down the foundation of marriage in order to allow this need of life to be fulfilled in a legiti-
mate manner. As well, the guidelines are very much in accordance with the intellect since the laws are divine
and the specific conditions are befitting to the valuable souls of both men and women alike.
Before Islam there were several traditions in Arab.
These traditions were some several unethical pro-
(i) Buying a girl from parents by paying a sum of
(ii) Temporary marriages.
(iii) Marriage with two real sisters simultaneously.
(iv) Freeness of giving up and again
In order to abolish these unethical traditions, Islam
brought a big change in the concept of marriage.
Marriage is a religious duty and is consequently
a moral safeguard as well as a social necessity. The
prophet(Pbuh)has also said, “Marriage is my tradition
whoever keeps away there from is not from amongst
me”. Marriage acts as an outlet for sexual needs and
regulate it so one does not become a slave to his/ her
desires. It is a social necessity because through mar-
riage, families are established and the family is the fun-
damental unit of our society. Furthermore, marriage is
the only legitimate or halal way to indulge in intimacy
between a man and a woman. Islam takes a middle of the
road position to sexual relations , it neither condemns it
like certain religions, nor does it allow it freely. Islam
urges us to control and regulate our desires, whatever
they may be so that we remain dignified and not become
The purpose of Marriage:
The word “Zawj” is used in the Qur’an to mean a pair
or a mate. In general its usage refers to marriage. The
general purpose of marriage is that the sexes can pro-
vide company to one another, love to one another, pro-
create children and live in peace and tranquility to the
commandments of Allah. Marriage serves as a means
to emotional and sexual gratification and as a means of
tension reduction. It is also a form of Ibadah because it is
obeying Allah and his messenger – i.e. Marriage is seen
as the only possible way for the sexes to unite. One could
choose to live in sin, however by choosing marriage one
is displaying obedience to Allah.
Marriage is “Mithaq” – a solemn covenant (agree-
ment). It is not a matter which can be taken lightly. It
should be entered into with total commitment and full
knowledge of what it involves. It is not like buying a new
dress where you can exchange it if you don’t like it. Your
partner should be your choice for life. One should be ma-
ture enough to understand the demands of marriage so
that the union can be a lasting one.
The general opinion among scholars of Islam is
that if a person, male or female fears that if he/she
does not marry they will commit fornication, then
marriage becomes “wajib” at that time. If a person
has strong sexual urges then it becomes “wajib” for
that person to marry. Marriage should not be put
off or delayed especially if one has the means to do
so. The general principle is that the Prophet (Pbuh)
enjoined upon the followers to marry.He (Pbuh)said
“when a man marries, he has fulfilled half of his re-
ligion , so let him fear Allah (SWT) regarding the re-
maining half.” This hadith is narrated by Anas (RA).
Islam greatly encourages marriage because it shields
one from and upholds the family unit which Islam
places great importance.
– The writer is a student at Kashmir University and
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